12.21.2010

Real Life Happens

I spent yesterday in the car, driving across Texas to arrive in El Paso.  One of my closest friends lost his father in a pretty horrible accident, so I'm here for whatever little support I may be able to provide.

I've got nothing profound to say.  Pain is part of the human experience and loss is inevitable; it doesn't make it any less tragic.

I had three primary running buddies in high school in England.  Three of us live in the states and the fourth is living his rock star dreams back in Europe, filling in as a lead singer in a killer cover band.  We all of us are still in touch and get together every decade or so.  Time falls away when you're hanging out with someone who knows you, and there are very few people who know me quite so well.

I managed to hold on to some of my stuff from the original Space Crusade run.

Games were a big part of our entertainment back then, including (on the rare occasions we were forced indoors) D&D and Space Crusade... and the last, of course, hooked me in a big way.  That said, games are never more than an excuse to hang out with people.

It's why I'll always prefer social games to computer games - playing with yourself isn't the same experience, is it?

Yea, I went there.

Point is, people are what's important.  We will always define ourselves through our ties with others, because man is a social creature.

It's why a hermit is strange.

I hope your friendships are grounded on something important.

13 comments:

  1. My condolences to the bereaved.

    I don't really have anything else to say.

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  2. My condolences to the family, is always tragic to lose someone you care for, and who cares for you.

    You nailed it again, without people we are almost nothing. It's a pity not enough people thinks this way.

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  3. I'm glad you put the reflections into words. I'm sorry it happened and hope good comes out of it.

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  4. what's important is having people to count on no matter what.

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  5. My condolences Brent. Sad it had to happen now.

    G

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  6. Condolences. I live here in El Paso and heard about the accident.

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  7. I am sorry to hear about your friend. I hope his family is doing well. As well as to be expected. As for the friendship thing I 100% agree with you. Friends you can count on are one of the most important things in life. I don't know what I would do with out my friends, they are my family; seeing as how I am a military transplant and my nearest family member lives 1,500 miles away, I am grateful for the friends I have.

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  8. My condolences dude.
    Nice reflection.
    Ven

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  9. How come you spent your high school days in the UK?

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  10. We tend to build our parent's admirable qualities up to space marine levels when they die, forgetting some of the things that we disliked about them...quite the opposite of what we feel when we look back on long-ago friendships.

    As an example, I was always ready for my dad to leave after three days when he'd visit for a week (due to genius IQ and the inability to keep his opinions to himself). Now he's remebered as Rogel Dorn...

    Death's sting never goes away, nor should it, but as you say, cest la vie.

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